Talking About Naturism
If we were all naked, all the time, it would certainly make talking about naturism a lot easier.
It would be great if everybody was a naturist, but until that day arrives, naturists will always need to co-exist with non-naturists. It can be tempting to try to “convince” non-naturists that they would be better off to join the club, but not everyone will respond well to that kind of direct approach.
There are a few relationship types that naturists will potentially have to deal with and each one would benefit from a different approach when it comes to talking about and evangelizing naturism.
For those in a relationship, if you are fortunate, you have a spouse or partner that shares your preferences around nudism and the naturist lifestyle. It would certainly be much easier when both sides of a relationship are on the same page, but that’s not always going to be the case.
For the nudist in a nudist + non-nudist relationship, it’s important not to push the lifestyle on their partner. Perhaps they will see the benefits over time, but perhaps not. Having an open dialogue about nudism and also about when and where both partners are okay with nudity is important.
The last thing you want in a relationship is for there to be resentment or annoyance on either side. If the non-nudist is okay with it, then certainly the nudist should feel comfortable to be nude around the house. If not, then it’s up to the nudist in the relationship to respect that wish and either make accommodations or to wear clothes or cover up when required.1
In my own marriage, my wife is most definitely not interested in any nudist activities, but she’s also completely fine if I choose to work nude, or otherwise be nude around the house. I make a point of not pushing things when it comes to nudity. For example, even if it’s just the two of us at home, I will generally wear clothes more often than not.
Over time, the non-nudist may start to see some of the benefits of naturism and being open to discuss things is key. Putting pressure on the non-nudist in the relationship to adopt or try nudism isn’t generally going to be productive so make a special effort to avoid doing that.
Some nudists are fine with having their friends know about their preferences around nudity while others keep their nudism to themselves. Whichever camp you might be in, it’s important to be respectful about it.
Maybe you’ve heard this saying about distance runners: “How do you know someone is a marathon runner? Oh, you’ll know…they’ll never stop telling you about it.”
For some naturists, that temptation to evangelize is strong. It’s understandable — naturists are passionate about the benefits that naturism and nudism provides in terms of body image and more. But it’s also easy to come on too strong and become the annoying nudist. Be mindful of the reactions (and potentially strongly differing opinions) if you choose to talk about naturism.
On the positive side, talking about nudism and what it has done for you can result in more people discovering the benefits of naturism for themselves. On the negative side, you risk losing or damaging friendships because nudity is still sometimes a taboo subject.
Be mindful that word may spread beyond the small circle of friends who might know that you are a naturist. Humans tend to be gossips and so while you might entrust a small group of friends with your “secret”, it takes just one person to tell their two friends who told their two friends…and next thing you know it’s common knowledge.
This one is a tough one. Depending on your job, industry and position, being openly nudist could have consequences. There are still stigmas and misconceptions about nudism that some may harbour. Perhaps they can’t understand how non-sexual nudity is possible. Or maybe there’s a belief that your practicing of nudism will reflect badly on your employer.
You should be careful about how you link yourself to your employer in all aspects of your private and public lives, whether it’s nudism or any other lifestyle choices.
As you might guess from the name of this newsletter, I’m not exactly “out” when it comes to my preferences around nudity. Very few people in my life are aware of it and, to be honest, I’m quite happy to keep it that way. I don’t feel the need to evangelize it, but I also wouldn’t immediately shy away from talking about it if the topic came up in a friend group.
You might feel different about it and that’s obviously fine. What works for one naturist may not work for all. Some people are more than happy to be public in their naturism practice while others might prefer to keep things more private.
Every situation and every person’s feelings about naturism and how they prefer to live their lives is up to them. Shout it from the rooftops or keep it to yourself. Just be aware of the potential reactions and even the consequences.
I purposefully omitted the topic of naturism and kids mostly because I don’t think I have enough experience with the subject to talk about it and also because “it’s complicated”. I’ll leave that discussion to others.